Signs of Attraction

1. Threshold of attraction has anyone ever asked you what's your type right now you may be fond of a specific look but your type changes based on your relationship status when you're single your threshold for romantic attraction is low and broad you're attracted to a wide range of people because you're unsure what kind of person will make you happy when you're in a relationship your preferences change your threshold for attraction gets much higher you already have a partner so you don't find the same people attractive now of course you still find other people attractive those preferences never disappear even in long-term relationships you may be perfectly happy with your partner but you can still be attracted to other people. 

2. Attraction control some people are born with attractive features but here's a psychological fact that most people don't know about attraction your most attractive features are entirely under your control you can't change your height or the shape of your face you're stuck with those things for life but you can influence your health your grooming and your wardrobe just think about the physical features that attractive people have in common attractive faces come in all shapes and sizes and each of these faces looks different and unique yet we find them all attractive so why is that it's not because of their innate physical features it's because of the traits they can control like style and fitness if you don't think you're attractive don't say i just wasn't born that way because your appearance is yours to control. 

3. Emotional rapport have you ever watched couples interact maybe you thought to yourself wow they have great chemistry chemistry is one of the biggest mysteries in romantic relationships how do you create chemistry with another person is it magic or is there a reason why some people have chemistry and some people don't to build chemistry you have to build rapport rapport is a complicated social relationship built upon deeper knowledge and mutual understanding you might have heard the term in a business context but it's even more important in a relationship so the next time you're around a strong couple pay attention to the way they talk to each other it almost feels like they're having several conversations at once one on the surface and another below the surface when you have great chemistry only you and your partner can communicate in a way only you two understand but how do you build chemistry it's easier than you think the best way to build chemistry is conversation be yourself make jokes get to know each other on a deeper level because that's where chemistry comes from understanding. 

4. Facial similarity so what kind of people are you attracted to you may be drawn to people that share many of your own qualities your style is a good example you may pursue partners with a similar sense of fashion so if you like to dress down chances are your partner does too we see the same pattern in physical features like hair color it's not uncommon for romantic couples to look alike but why do we fall for people who look like us because you look at yourself every day you think about how many times you've looked at your face in the mirror your features are the features you're used to your attractiveness is how you judge the attractiveness of others so don't be surprised if you and your partner have characteristics in common. 

5. Smile frequency how often do you smile a study from the american psychological association found that women are perceived as more attractive when they smile frequently traits like positivity and confidence are associated with happy facial expressions like a genuine smile so it's no surprise that men consider women more desirable when they're smiling ah but the opposite is true for men women perceive men as more attractive when they smile sparingly   many women prefer brooding personality types similar to reserved characters in movies and books but you shouldn't change your facial expressions to make you more attractive that's not the takeaway here the takeaway is this facial expression sends strong messages about your attitude and your personality smiling or frowning it speaks volumes about who you really are.

6. The hair limit is facial hair attractive or unattractive on average men with stubble were rated as more attractive than men who were clean shaven but there's a limit to how long your beard should grow men with longer fuller beards were also considered less attractive than men with   stubble so don't be afraid to grow out your facial hair just make sure you keep it short and clean. 

7. Bold communication many men and women play hard to get they act like they don't care they pretend to be cool and carefree but their disinterest pushes their partners away the most attractive people send the opposite message they use bold and confident body language they send clear messages and express their wants needs and feelings these people aren't  afraid to communicate their interest and that communication makes them even more attractive. 

8. The hidden sense physical 7 involves all five senses we're attracted to the way someone looks we're attracted to the sound of someone's voice and we're also attracted to the way someone smells a smell can be so powerful that it overwhelms you with desire for another person the unique smell of a partner for example can trigger a wide range of emotions from comfort to attraction so to make yourself more attractive pay attention to the way you smell create a unique scent for yourself because your scent could be one of your most attractive traits. 

9. Influential media how do you decide who's attractive and who isn't our standards are influenced heavily by the media we are constantly exposed to models actors and other celebrities   whose appearances define modern romance when looking at strangers we subconsciously measure their attractiveness against the people we idolize but we treat partners a little differently you may think someone's attractive based on popular traits but you're more likely to choose a partner   who's uniquely attractive to you. 

10. the beauty bias is there a beauty bias in our culture unfortunately attractive people have more opportunities than less attractive people on average they're perceived as more intelligent more confident and more successful they're more likely to get job offers make more money and make good first impressions so why do attractive people have an advantage well because most of us have a weak spot for people we find attractive   when you encounter someone you find attractive you automatically make certain assumptions about them you want to like them and you want them to like you so does a beauty bias exist in the world today  absolutely.